SIX YEARS DOWN, 44 TO GO
Today, my Husband and I have been married for six years. We have actually been together, almost seven years. I honestly can't remember, being married to my first Husband. I know that I was briefly, we managed to produce a son. It's funny, my Husband says the same thing about his first wife. He has trouble remembering anyone before me. I tell everyone that, the mind is a wonderful organ. It is full of self preservation mechanisms. Meaning that, if you suffered through tramatic events; the mind would tend to repress it. I would have to say that, my mind must have repressed over six years worth of trama, with my first husband. Again, maybe that was so long ago that, I can't remember. Mostly that, I don't want to remember. I have a wonderful life and, a wonderful Husband now. Who would want to remember those terrible things? I really do thank my Ex-Husband though.
If he hadn't been such a total Bastard, then I wouldn't have found the love of my life. My first marriage taught me how to be a better person. I realized quickly that, I'd never be the person I once was. I'm not saying that, I'm perfect. It's just that, I'm a better person for, having being put through all of that. It also made me realize, what I would and would not put up with in the future. Divorce tends to give you a new opportunity to be choosey. Dating, is a total learning lesson. You take a little bit away, from everyone that you go out with. You get to decide if, you didn't like a certain aspect of that individual. You can make an immediate note of that, and store it away for future reference. I made a lot of mental notes, while I was dating after my divorce.
Again, I'm not saying that my marriage is perfect. I am actually shocked that, we even made it this far. I am a pretty black and white person. It things are going well, all the better. If things are not going well, I want to change it. I guess that, fight or flight would describe it better. I am not actually a fighter, I am more of a flighter. I don't like confrentation at all. Although, if marriages were prefect, one would find that a little odd. Besides, our world is not the ideal place. Again, our marriage is not perfect. It is something we have to work on everyday. However, we manged to make it his far. On that note, I'll give both of us a pat on the back for that. So, if today is your Anniversary as well, Happy Anniversary to ya'll!
Today, my Husband and I have been married for six years. We have actually been together, almost seven years. I honestly can't remember, being married to my first Husband. I know that I was briefly, we managed to produce a son. It's funny, my Husband says the same thing about his first wife. He has trouble remembering anyone before me. I tell everyone that, the mind is a wonderful organ. It is full of self preservation mechanisms. Meaning that, if you suffered through tramatic events; the mind would tend to repress it. I would have to say that, my mind must have repressed over six years worth of trama, with my first husband. Again, maybe that was so long ago that, I can't remember. Mostly that, I don't want to remember. I have a wonderful life and, a wonderful Husband now. Who would want to remember those terrible things? I really do thank my Ex-Husband though.
If he hadn't been such a total Bastard, then I wouldn't have found the love of my life. My first marriage taught me how to be a better person. I realized quickly that, I'd never be the person I once was. I'm not saying that, I'm perfect. It's just that, I'm a better person for, having being put through all of that. It also made me realize, what I would and would not put up with in the future. Divorce tends to give you a new opportunity to be choosey. Dating, is a total learning lesson. You take a little bit away, from everyone that you go out with. You get to decide if, you didn't like a certain aspect of that individual. You can make an immediate note of that, and store it away for future reference. I made a lot of mental notes, while I was dating after my divorce.
Again, I'm not saying that my marriage is perfect. I am actually shocked that, we even made it this far. I am a pretty black and white person. It things are going well, all the better. If things are not going well, I want to change it. I guess that, fight or flight would describe it better. I am not actually a fighter, I am more of a flighter. I don't like confrentation at all. Although, if marriages were prefect, one would find that a little odd. Besides, our world is not the ideal place. Again, our marriage is not perfect. It is something we have to work on everyday. However, we manged to make it his far. On that note, I'll give both of us a pat on the back for that. So, if today is your Anniversary as well, Happy Anniversary to ya'll!
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